Flying Solo

Weekends and holidays are only dates on a calendar. Remember that you have a decision to make. It is not the weekend or holiday that is making you sad; it’s your attitude about the events and circumstances in your life that makes you sad.

When special days or holidays approach, feelings of anxiety, stress, loneliness and depression can almost become overwhelming for some singles. Why am I alone? Why can’t I find somebody? Why can’t I just be happy?

Butterflies are among the most beautiful creatures God has created, but before a butterfly spreads its wings to fly, it spends time alone in a “chrysalis” – what some people call a “cocoon” — undergoing transformation. This period in your life may simply be a period of transformation as God shapes you and molds you. Caterpillars can only crawl and are earthbound; butterflies can fly free. Wouldn’t you like to live a life beyond earthly limits?

You must believe that God has not abandoned you. God has promised that He will not fail us or forsake us. (Deut. 31:6) In Psalm 91 God reveals that He has given his angels charge over us and that He is with us even in times of trouble….

Our Lord is the God of all comfort… (2 Cor 1:3) If you feel lost, depressed and lonely Jesus will help you. Jesus said that He came to heal the broken hearted (Luke 4: 18 ).

You must believe, based on the Word of God, that you are capable of walking through any valley, withstanding any fiery furnace; and that the floods and trials of life will not overtake you. Don’t let pressures cause you to doubt God’s goodness and His timing. God’s got the best plan and program for your life. No good thing does He withhold from the upright (Psalm 84:11) – so if we are still faithfully waiting for that promotion, that husband, or new business opportunity …… we don’t need to get restless or anxious.

When we believe that:
God has not failed us or forsaken us,
That we have been wired by God to withstand the trials of life,
That our God gives restoration and comfort,
That Jesus already overcame the world and came to heal the broken-hearted,
Then…… we can see holidays as a temporary time period God is using to strengthen us and draw us closer to Him.

You must absolutely believe that you are loved, unconditionally… not because you are perfect, not because of your job or hairstyle or family background. God loves you with an everlasting love. Jesus Christ loved us enough to endure the pain and humiliation of a public crucifixion. Now that’s real love, true love, genuine love.

Renew your mind about what is really important in life. Be thankful to the Lord for every blessing in your life and praise HIM. Thank Him for being alive. Thank Him for a sound mind. Thank Him for your personal relationship with Jesus Christ. No matter how bad you think things are, you can always find something to be thankful for.

Recognize that you are in the midst of a spiritual battle. And then use what I call “power words” from the Word of God. Proverbs 18:21 states that death and life are in the power of the tongue. Use words to your advantage. Declare the Word of God.

Speak the promises of God out loud on a daily basis:
All things are working together for my good (Romans 8:28)
The Lord’s plan for my life is for good and not evil. (Jer 29: 11-13)
I am loved with an everlasting love (Jer 31: 3)
I am complete in Christ (Col 2: 10)
No weapon formed against me shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17)
I shall come forth as gold. (Job 23:10)

Take Power Steps and Move in the Right Direction
Focus on what is going right in your life. Write a list of all the simple blessings. Health, strength, being alive.
Focus on spending quality time with people who are true friends, encouragers and supporters. Jesus should be at the top your list!
Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fullness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore. Psalm 16:11
Focus on helping at least one person outside of your immediate circle of family and friends. Hospitals, organizations which feed the poor or provide shelter for the homeless are generally in need of volunteers.
Get the power of giving flowing in your life…. give a donation to a ministry, church or group that helps people rebuild their lives in meaningful ways.
Do something special for yourself…. but avoid over-spending. Take time to read a book, buy some flowers, exercise, get a manicure, visit a spa, museum or park. Schedule it on your calendar and keep the commitment!
Let holidays be your best days!

For more inspiration, download the message “How to Beat and Defeat Holiday Blues.” This twenty minute teaching provides additional scriptures and testimonies to give you a “blast” of spiritual energy.